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May, 2019

Supporting from the Sidelines

Parents/Guardians, Families and Friends,

First of all, thanks for all the support and time and effort to take your kids and their teammates to practices and games. We appreciate your support of the club! Thanks for cheering your child on during the games.

However, it is important to understand the best way to help your child and his/her coach have a successful, educational experience in soccer.

The game of soccer is a great natural teacher.

Things you Should Do:

  • Cheer for your child when he or she does something well. “Nice pass” , “great shot”, “Good hustle”

  • Encourage them when it doesn’t quite go their way. “Good effort, don’t worry, keep playing hard” “You’ll get it the next time”

  • Cheer positively for the rest of the players on your team. “Nice pass, Jon.” “Great save, Emily” “Nice shot, Will”.

What you Should Not Do:

  • Yell “instructions” to your child. Remember, being the parent, they are more likely to hear your voice and follow your advice and that may conflict with specific instructions from the coach. Let the coaches do the coaching. If you ever want to get into coaching, please contact us. We are always open to talking with parents that are interested in volunteer coaching.

    • Examples of “instructions” to avoid

      • “Boot it” – we don’t want the kids to always just kick it hard down field with no purpose or thought of where it is going. Let’s encourage passing with a purpose.

      • “Get over there and get the ball”. At the younger ages, coaches discuss the importance of spreading out and not getting “bunched up”. We need to allow them to learn to play their positions and back up their teammates accordingly. If our players spread out and use proper spacing and angles, they can have success possessing the ball,  finding gaps in the defense of the other team and ultimately lead to success on the field.

      • Telling your player to “pass it next time” after he/she misses a close range shot. While we want our players to share the ball and play as a team, we also want to develop players that will have the confidence to try and beat a player 1 vs 1 and get a shot on goal.

      • Don’t discourage them when they try a new move, turn or type of pass. Encouraging players to try new skills during a game, gives them the opportunity to implement and practice the skills in a game situation.

      • “Push them back”. We want our kids to play aggressive. Inevitably, there will be contact in soccer. However, we don’t want the kids to misunderstand playing aggressive and physical with fouls like pushing, tripping or shirt pulling, which are all against the rules.

    • Most kids bounce back from a loss or a “bad game” much faster than the parents and coaches do. It is not recommended to immediately go over the game in the car on the way home. If your player wants to talk about, he or she will initiate it. A recent study of high level athletes said that dealing with parents’ criticism immediately following the game was one of the worst parts of youth sports. Coaches can address areas of improvement and learning moments from the game at the next practice.

    • Criticize the referees. If our players hear parents and spectators constantly criticizing the referees, then they will be more likely to show disrespect on the field. This can lead to heated exchanges, yellow cards and even red cards (suspension from that game and the next game). Please review the Alliance 4 All program and videos Referees make mistakes, it is part of the game and learning to deal with decisions that we do not agree with is a great life lesson. If there is a serious incident or concern about a game or a referee, please email the Director of Referees and the Apex Board.

Apex Soccer Academy, Norwalk Soccer Club, Indianola Soccer Tribe and Carlisle Soccer Club are always looking for individuals that wish to become a licensed youth soccer referee. Not only are you giving back to the game, you can earn some extra money and get some exercise.

Thanks for supporting your player, team and coach in a positive manner.

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